Whose boundary is it?

May 5, 2022 | Structure

Retro effect and toned image of a woman hand writing a note with a fountain pen on a notebook. Handwritten text Set Boundaries

I read the news regularly and I’m always paying special attention to the financial section.

There’s been a lot of discussion of the impending “doom” that will “wreak havoc” when inflation rises again – at least if that’s how you choose to feel about it.

The government is famous for creating policies under the guise of helping people that don’t actually help people at all.

There are countless policies that go into effect that impact us in ways big and small, advantageous (for some) and disadvantageous (for others).

We are left feeling like we have no control over how and when these things will affect us.

Except, we do.

The control is not over the policy itself or the date of its effect or what bracket or group we are in.

The control is in how we respond.

The control is in how we choose to see the impact and outcome.

We can choose whether we go into scarcity mode, thinking we’ll never have enough, damning everyone who was involved, and carrying around toxic negativity, all of which will only create a self-fulfilling prophecy of less. Because money loves JOY and harboring resentment isn’t joyful.

Or, we can choose to go forward with abundance as our guide, knowing we are in control of our own destiny, income, choices, and that there is enough for all of us no matter what policymakers do.

This all comes down to boundary setting.

When we are waiting for someone else to make a decision that affects us (like the government) and decide there’s nothing we can do about it, we have let that external force/entity draw the line we now operate in.

We need to draw our own lines by the ways we choose to respond to outside circumstances, or by the way we decide to interact with our money, or by the commitment to showing up in the world with agency and authority over our lives.

So whether it’s the government passing a new policy or the company we work for defining our salary or our clients demanding more from us, we have to take a step back and ask ourselves, “Where’s the boundary? Whose is it?”

And if it’s not one we’ve created, it’s time to reclaim it and make it ours.

 

Here’s the 3-2-1 on the Attitude of Boundaries.

3 TRUTHS

  1. When we wait for someone else to make a decision that affects us and take no control over how we respond, we are letting them set the boundary and acting as though we have no other choice.
  2. Clearly understanding and defining our boundaries before taking the action to put them in place raises our awareness and allows us to see when someone is trying to cross them.
  3. Creating boundaries is just another way of providing structure to our lives that actually allows us to live more freely than if we had none. With good boundaries, we can see different paths to increasing our income and experiencing more joy in our life.

2 ACTIONS

  1. Determine where you’ve allowed someone else to set a boundary for you.
  2. Challenge that boundary. Flip it on its head. Is it really serving you? Determine what’s best for you and then take ownership.

1 QUESTION

  1. What boundary (created by someone else for me) am I tolerating?

This money conversation continues on YouTube. Check out Relying on the Government? to learn more about the attitude of boundaries. Don’t forget to subscribe while you’re there!

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