I talk to so many people who don’t understand why they can’t find more success with their money.
They make money and then they lose it.
Or there’s money in the bank and then something unexpected happens and the money is all gone.
Or they get close to making money, but they can’t close the deal.
Or they feel like things happen financially for other people, but not for them. “It’s just not their lot in life; money is just not for them.”
And this is what I ask them to imagine.
Imagine that you have a friend.
Now, imagine not speaking to that friend. Instead, you avoid them. You project all of your past upbringing and conflicts and preconceived ideas onto them and the relationship.
You rarely take this friend out or spend any time with them. And when you do spend time with them, you’re anxious and constantly wondering if they’re going to meet your needs and provide enough for you or if they’re going to disappoint you yet again.
When your friend reaches out to you, you delay answering. You put it off, acting like you don’t know what to say. And when you do connect, you behave awkwardly, not knowing how to interact.
Now imagine that this was your best friend.
Would they remain your best friend?
Would they remain your friend at all?
I don’t know about all of you, but for me and the people in my life, we would leave if treated this way.
Our relationship with money is exactly the same.
We treat money like a distant friend (or worse, an enemy), and then we wonder why we have all of these problems around it.
The truth is, we’ve initiated and participated in contributing to those problems within the relationship – this friendship between us and money.
So now, imagine again, that you were trying to repair this friendship with this person that was near and dear to you.
What would you do?
You’d apologize.
You’d make things right.
You’d work on your own stories.
You’d make sure your unhealthy emotion wasn’t getting in the way of the relationship.
You’d talk to them.
You’d make time to be with them, to be present with them and to be comfortable.
You’d have hard conversations, maybe ones that you’ve been avoiding.
You’d face your own fears and get over your own things that are causing you to not be able to be in a healthy relationship with this person.
If you truly cared about them, you would have trustworthy people you can go to for advice on how to navigate this difficult situation that you’ve created with your friend.
And that’s where I come in.
Money has its own language.
When we’re aware of this language, we communicate with money on the conscious level of our brain.
But for most people – because they’re unaware of and actively avoiding a relationship with money – that interaction between them and their money happens on the subconscious level.
It’s dictated by the cultures we were raised in, generational stories handed down to us, our upbringing and what we saw modeled in the home, and trauma that we may have experienced as a result of the lack of or too much money.
We then embody those things on a subconscious level and we project it onto how we now interact with money.
So if we want more success with our money, we must undo the subconscious programming preventing us from stepping into powerful relationship with it.
And that’s more than mindset work. It’s trauma and culture work as well.
If you’re finally ready to stop standing in the way of your own success, I have 2 openings for 1:1 work.
Together, we will deal with the psychological brain science between what you see, what you’ve understood, what’s been impressed on you, and the patterns that you have around money, and then we’ll course correct those exchanges so that money can go from being an enemy to a best friend.
