Debbie and I have this friend that we recently told about an award we are getting. It’s a pretty prestigious award (more details when we can make it public) which has been met with a varying degree of reactions from our inner circle, from over-the-top excitement to the anti-climactic “that’s nice.”
It happens. Not everyone is going to be excited for you.
But I noticed something interesting happen when we told this most recent friend.
They’re entire demeanor changed from curiosity (leaning in, asking questions, being engaged) to judgment (pulling back, “fixing their face”, and shutting the rest of the conversation down with a change of subject) as soon as they found out what kind of award we were getting.
This is the most abrupt shift from genuine curiosity to closed-off judgment that I’ve seen recently and it immediately had me thinking about money.
Specifically, how we react when money enters or exits our lives and the impact that reaction has on our ability to make and keep it.
In curiosity, we make ourselves open to understand money (rather than fight with it). And through that process we come to understand more about ourselves and the TRUTH about what is really in our way.
Remember, money is a mirror. It simply reflects back what already exists inside us.
So when we come to the table with judgment, we stifle our own growth. We resist the indicators inviting us to change, which means we also uphold our roadblocks instead of getting them out of the way. And, whether we realize it or not, we learn to hate and berate ourselves in the process.
In judgment, there are no solutions. Only blame.
So stay curious.
Ask questions of your money.
Listen to its reply.
